I’ve often thought I’d like to be like Worzel Gummige (sp?) be able to change my head when my mind’s whirring, for one that doesn’t think so much. Living with a long term condition can make you think there is no escaping from it. It just won’t shut off and you feel obliged to apologise for the way you are and for the lack of participation or inclusion you are able to mete out. Fighting yourself is not the answer. I’ve discovered how to be happy as I am and to stop apologising for what I can’t change. Most people aren’t invested in us to notice every nuance we fixate upon. Most people don’t notice half the things about us as we think they do. Men mostly don’t register stuff like women do and they’d think us barmy for attributing such thoughts as coming from them. It’s easy to have both sides of a conversation putting words into their mouths, but they’d be horrified that you attribute it to them.
Today my neurophysio said men don’t think like that, when I was expressing frustration over not being able communicate effectively a simple, logical task which made complete sense to me but was received with a blank expression as if I’d lost my mind. She’s not the first to hold that opinion, she is 36 and single an incredibly lovely young woman, fun and intelligent and very relational and caring. Not sure why we woman want so much from men when we’ve got so much going on for us already. I wouldn’t focus on anything other than that, you are a beautiful intelligent woman, greatly talented and well respected, full of life and an inspiration. Speak without words, no need to explain yourself, just be you. If a picture paints a thousand words than one look at you will speak volumes to any man out there who recognises a work of art.🥰
Thank you for your very sweet and encouraging message 🥰 you're right that it is so easy to start overthinking things and project our own anxieties onto other people or a particular situation. I'm going to just keep being me and living my life as best I can without explaining or justifying it to anyone else. Life is good and there is so much to look forward to.
I’ve often thought I’d like to be like Worzel Gummige (sp?) be able to change my head when my mind’s whirring, for one that doesn’t think so much. Living with a long term condition can make you think there is no escaping from it. It just won’t shut off and you feel obliged to apologise for the way you are and for the lack of participation or inclusion you are able to mete out. Fighting yourself is not the answer. I’ve discovered how to be happy as I am and to stop apologising for what I can’t change. Most people aren’t invested in us to notice every nuance we fixate upon. Most people don’t notice half the things about us as we think they do. Men mostly don’t register stuff like women do and they’d think us barmy for attributing such thoughts as coming from them. It’s easy to have both sides of a conversation putting words into their mouths, but they’d be horrified that you attribute it to them.
Today my neurophysio said men don’t think like that, when I was expressing frustration over not being able communicate effectively a simple, logical task which made complete sense to me but was received with a blank expression as if I’d lost my mind. She’s not the first to hold that opinion, she is 36 and single an incredibly lovely young woman, fun and intelligent and very relational and caring. Not sure why we woman want so much from men when we’ve got so much going on for us already. I wouldn’t focus on anything other than that, you are a beautiful intelligent woman, greatly talented and well respected, full of life and an inspiration. Speak without words, no need to explain yourself, just be you. If a picture paints a thousand words than one look at you will speak volumes to any man out there who recognises a work of art.🥰
Thank you for your very sweet and encouraging message 🥰 you're right that it is so easy to start overthinking things and project our own anxieties onto other people or a particular situation. I'm going to just keep being me and living my life as best I can without explaining or justifying it to anyone else. Life is good and there is so much to look forward to.